Monday, 31 March 2008

Allison, this is plagiarism but let me do it anyway ya...

To quote Alli's blog:

Jz out of randomness,

" When a girl throws her tantrum or start ignoring you in a relationship, guys pls take note!

Unless your gf is a super spoilt princess and all she does is just throwing tantrum over the most ridiculous nothing, when a girl starts feeling unhappy and shows her tantrum in a relationship, SOMETHING is WRONG somewhere.

It doesn't matter anymore then who started the problem 1st or who started screaming at who 1st.

Because if u love her, if you really love her, then look for the source of the problem. Pay serious attention to what she has been complaining about all the time. Pay serious attention to all the possible things you might have done to provoke her unhappiness.

Don't just take her as she's angry now, let her be..after a while she be ok because that will be the most wrong mentality u will ever have. Or don't just trying to pacify her without knowing why the both of you argued/ fought in the 1st place.

After a while, she may be ok, but only on the superficial surface, the root and underlying problem is still unsolved and it be building up on the inside till one fine day, when the problem grew so big, it will erupt like a volcano.

Don't ever adapt the attitude or mentality that, if 'i jz pretend nth happen, everything will be alright soon.' When something happen, no matter big or small, try solving it immediately. Pretending nth ever happen or living in denial is just the act of cowards. So, be a man and stand up to the problem.

If you dno where the problem is, then try talking to your gf bout it. Ask her, what is wrong. If she says nth, and she acts totally like there is, you know there is. And sometimes when she says nth, it's not because she don't want to share with you the problem or she doesnt want the problem solve.

Sometimes, it's because the problem had been there for too long and she has been hinting to you bout it and you still don't get it or don't seem to bother when she hint you the problem, thus she is too sad and disappointed to point it out anymore.

What she is hoping is for a miracle to happen and for you to uncover the problem yourself and show her the change that she wants to see. It's not because she doesn't wna salvage the relationship anymore, but u shd noe what it feels like to repetitively repeat some things only to be reflected to where it started. ( sad to say, this is what many girls will hope for but many guys will always fail to do..well, when a relationship comes to this stage, it's pretty much near its end as well)

If you really love someone, cherish her before it's too late.

Love is a very beautiful gift, but only when you know how to appreciate it. "

PS : I'm definitely not discriminating against any guys in this post

PSS: I'm not saying all girls think like me. This is just fr my humble point of view

PSSS: I'm not saying that guys are the only ones that has to find the root of the problem and certainly i know of cases where the girls are the ones being too irrational, sensitive and making a mountain out of a molehill. But this post is in instances where the girl is none of the above.

Have a great night! =)


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